Be curious about this world

This is the advice I got a few months ago and it redefined me as a human being.

I became curious if I could find a way to discover what the work-life integration concept really is. I was eager to find a way to do not push away all the things that I liked so much because of a lack of time.

I started exploring and I found out that a part-time work schedule will be the best thing to help me achieve this. And I’ve made this change. And I keep being thankful every day that I could identify at time I was not OK. If you feel sad, overwhelmed, or that your body is not as strong as always then STOP and listen to what your body/heart tells you. And if you are not able to identify what’s wrong then ASK for help.

Be curious about sports. Try until you find what you enjoy doing. And if it doesn’t click when trying a new sport, maybe it is worth finding an instructor. For example, I feel right now that swimming lessons are my mindfulness moment, and that it was great I tried again. And of course ballet classes. I am not sure what made me try them, but somehow a match was there. I guess I was curious ?

Be curious and start reading. Do this even it feel difficult at the beginning. Be curious about new topics.

Be curious about this world and travel or try new experiences. Try concerts (not known names or something expensive), visit museums, parks, new paths to work or kindergarten, try new bus lines, new cities, foods, wines, new hobbies. You will be surprised what you will find out about yourself.

Be curious about others life experiences.

Be curious about what your moral compass is. What defines you? What you will want people to say about you m when you will not be in this world anymore? This is a question I had when reading the “Starring at the sun” book (by Irvin Yalom), or “Man searching for meaning” (by Viktor Frankl). A question I had two years ago when attending a time management workshop for parents. A question I had but for that I parked its answers until these days. 

Now, when I found out that someone I knew and I respected a lot, someone of my age left this world for a better one. If there is heaven I am sure she has a place there. And I am sure that the words she wrote me years ago will be always in my heart.

Maternity/paternity leave makes you a better professional

Some time ago I was concerned with how maternity leave would impact my career. Am I thinking at this anymore? NO.

“Why not?”, you’ll be tempted to ask me. Because… please find my answer below (funny, it seems I miss my work related emails).

Soon it will end my full-time job as a stay-at-home mom. It was such an amazing and well spent time that I could not ever regret it. I learned so many things, and I improved a lot as an individual. All these new experiences made me a better professional. This is an unproven theory at this point, but I promise I will write a new post after a few months of work. I am sure my theory will be confirmed.

Why will I be a better professional even though I was not a developer for about 250 days?

1. I am much more tolerant, calmer, adaptable, and I have great results with a small amount of sleep 😀

During this time I learned it can be much more difficult to understand child’s needs than understanding some unclear requirements, colleagues/managers actions.

2. I am not counting anymore left days until vacation.

When I was working I would start doing a count-down of days remaining until a lengthy vacation about 2 months before. Now I haven’t even had time to book the accommodation for the next month holliday that’s coming up in less than 3 weeks :)) Every hour I have for myself is a blessing.

3. The technology addiction did not change

I do have the same desire to find out about new technologies. The problem is that I do not have the same allocated time for this. Currently I cannot plan to see a live tech event because my daughter “asks” for my entire attention. I started an Android course, but I did not finish it. My Feedly is overflowing. And the list can continue.

Wait… This means I will become better on finding synthesized resources to feed my technology addiction 🙂

4. I am still a fast learner (only that I am learning more about parenting),  and I am better at multitasking

I do have 15+ books about parenting and children’s food in backlog. Do you know how difficult it is to read all these books with an energetic baby around you?

Now I can attend courses, and take care of my baby in the same time. I attended a first aid class, a workshop about kids and pets, I wrote this post, I am cooking, and all these activities with my baby in my arms, and sometimes while breastfeeding her.

5. I do prioritize better, and I am not as stressed as before

I like to believe that now I have a better view of the day-by-day experiences, and that I learned to analyze and filter them much more efficient.

6. My socialization skills improved

I was always shy, but this started to change after we got the dog. Now is better. I attended a few activities with my daughter, and I do feel they had an impact to my socialization skills, also. No need to pay an experienced trainer for mommy too 🙂

7. I do enjoy life more

Will this make me more enjoyable?

8. I am a better leader and organizer

Can you imagine how funny is to “lead” both your baby and your dog? If not, I encourage you to get a dog and have a baby. Managing a team will be piece of cake (don’t forget I was never team lead).

9. I am better at planning

I am using Google Calendar and a Kanban app for several years, but now I am an expert at this. What’s not in my calendar does not simply exist.

I do have in my list a post idea about how efficient can be Google calendar for the family. Hope I will write it soon.

10. I am a better team worker

Now I can work with teams with moms, babies/toddlers and coordinator.

And the story can go on… Maybe I did not write as many lines of code as I would have written being at work (definitely I did not do that), but being a developer is more than that. It is about your soft skills too, and I am pretty sure I improved them.

It will be fun if other parents will share their experiences and how better professionals they became during their maternity leave.

I use Kanban daily and I love it

For those who are not working in the IT world, or maybe they are not aware of Kanban, you can read this short introduction from Wikipedia. Basically it is a methodology used to organize IT projects using a queue of tasks. The revelation I had a while ago is that Kanban can be used for more than just IT projects.

I am not sure how many people are using Kanban daily to improve their life. I have to say that both my husband and I have been using it for a very long time and we definitely made our life easier.

Daily you have lots of extra work to do. You have a job, but also you have a family, a house, a life to live. The best way to achieve a balanced life and to have more free time to spend with your loved ones is to become more organized.

To be able to achieve all these with Kanban we chose a tool that was developed to support this process. Now we use Trello (thanks to a colleague of mine who recommended it), but we started this journey using KanbanFlow. I am pretty sure there are more tools of this type, but Trello seems to be the best choice for us for now. It has both web and mobile support.

After you chose the tool you want to work with you have to understand a little bit how this works, and what’s the best way to use it for your needs. You will need to understand few terms and principles:

  • What is a board? Is there a need to share my board with other persons? How to organize my board (the workflow)?

The board is the place where you can view and manage all of your tasks, and workflow. You can share your board with other persons (for example both my husband and I chose to share our personal boards with each other). Sometimes doing this brings value to your process and the most important visibility. Of course it depends also how much your time depends from others.

Related of workflow, it is better to follow the process, but to adapt it to your needs. Below you will see how I decided to organize my Kanban workflow.

  • What is a task?  Can I assign this task to someone? How granular should be a task?

A task (in Trello it is called card) is simple a thing you have to do in a certain day. For example, you need to make an appointment to the doctor, you need to research some products etc. When you add a task try to make it very simple. If you have a big task try to split it in small parts and file multiple cards for it. If this is not possible, then you can add a checklist to the task.

If you want you can subscribe multiple people to a card, you can add comments, and many other stuff that will make the interaction with the Kanban process much more easier.

  • Queue of tasks.

This is actually the list with all the actions you need to complete at some point. The most important thing is to prioritize your items based of their importance. The first card in the queue has the biggest priority, the bottom card is the less important one.

  • What is the WIP (work-in-process) stage and how to manage tasks to follow its principles?

It is very important to limit the number of tasks you are working on. If you are not doing that then you will see your list full of items for lots of days. Believe me, this is true. I tested it myself 🙂

Try to have 1-3 cards in progress to make sure you finish them and that you will advance in workflow (moving them in done).

First of all you will need to identify how many boards do you need. From my experience it is best to have only one board per person (I strictly refer here to boards for your personal use. If you want to use it for work, for school etc. then you will need to create one board for each domain). It is much easier this way. I tried to have multiple boards for my personal stuff  at some point but it did not work for me.

After that you will have to define a flow for your board. My flow has the following lists (displayed in the same order as below) :

– To Do (actually this is the queue with all my tasks);

– To Do This Week (here I define the tasks I need to complete in the current week);

– To Do Today (the queue containing all the tasks to be done in the current day);

– Doing (tasks in progress);

– Done (completed tasks).

Every week I reprioritize my cards and move the ones I have to solve in the current week in the “To Do This Week” list.

Every morning I add the items to solve in that day in the “To Do Today” column, and when I start a task I put it in progress (the “Doing” column). Once it is done I make sure I move it in Done.

Make sure you find the flow that works best for you. For example, my husband used the “To Do, To Do Tomorrow, Doing, and Done” workflow, and recently he changed it with one that has all weekdays.

Consider sharing your board with your partner. It is not a must, but for my husband and I works very well and saves lot of time. You can add cards to your partners board (I truly enjoy this :D). For example, I realized today that our car needs to be washed so I added a task to my husband to fix this problem (of course, this is only a “primitive” scenario :D). Please make sure you add these tasks in the “To Do” column, otherwise you can destroy the power of this methodology.

It might seem complicated, but believe me it isn’t. It is actually much more easier than you realize. You have access on your board from every computer with Internet access or from your smartphone (of course after you install the app 🙂 ).

There are lots of things to write about the benefits of using Kanban in your day-by-day life, and of course about Kanban as a process, but I think this post is a good start. I will let you experiment, and maybe I will create a suite of posts about this subject.

Enjoy!

Book Review of “Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead – by Sheryl Sandberg”

I found out about this book while sitting on the beach during last year’s summer vacation, and leafing through a magazine. I liked the short article I read, and told my husband about it. I was surprised he was already aware of it. He told me it is a controversial book, and he encouraged me to read it because he wants to hear my opinion about the content.

So lately in 2013 I started reading Sheryl’s book. It was in a period when I felt something was missing in my professional life, and when I had a lot of thoughts about where my career would go to. I found out I was pregnant, and, believe me, it was the best news I ever had in my life until then. However there was a “but” in the whole situation. I felt I would not know how to handle my professional career in the future. All I can say now is that it definitely changed my perspective (even though I still have moments when I feel overwhelmed). After I finished reading the book I felt I can definitely achieve my goals because I believe in myself and I have my husband’s support. Also, it was nice to see that I am not the only woman who wants to succeed in a male dominated industry, and to have a fulfilling family life.

Sheryl’s book is amazing. It is well documented, and very emotional at times as well. If you are a woman you definitely must read this book. If you are a man you should read it too.

You will be exposed to her whole life experience. You will learn it is good to take attitude when something is unfair at work. You will learn there are ways to do this, and that it is OK if you do not take the best spot decision. You will find out you are not the only woman who cried at some point at the office.  You will find out that it is fair to negotiate too, and that this is not only a ‘man’ thing. You will feel inspired. I found the book to be a catalyst to new ideas.

Every person in this world should be able to take a decision without being labeled. If you want to return at work after a few weeks pause you should be able to do it without being blamed (see Marissa Mayer’s case). If your recovery went well, your child is safe, and you are in a flexible situation, then it is OK to do this. If you want to be a stay-at-home mom or dad, it is OK also. I agree with Sheryl’s statement that the world needs to change and that our children (boys or girls) should have the opportunity to handle their professional and family lives as they wish without being labeled.

If you struggle and you are still not sure you want to read Sheryl’s book I recommend you to watch the interview she had with the Salesforce CEO, Marc Benioff.

Happy reading!

Importance of having a role model-Part2

Today I wanted to bring to your attention another role model  for me: a programmer whose posts inspired me, and with  whom I identified myself a little bit because of her addiction to challenges and her deep-running passion for technology.

I found out about Kelly Sommers, a.k.a. kellabyte, when reading one of my RSS feeds.

First of all, it is immediately obvious that Kelly Sommers is a passionate technologist and a professional you would enjoy working with. She became a role model for me after reading her self description, some of her posts, and after I saw her involvement in the developer community (recently she was named Apache Cassandra MVP in recognition of her work in this area).

Kelly likes challenges, and she is constantly willing to improve her technological and architectural skills. She is a true geek woman. She convinced me that women can become great technologists.

I hope I got your attention and you would like to find more about her.  There is a relatively recent interview with her that you might like also. Check it out on Code Project.

Importance of having a role model-Part1

This is a subject I have wanted to write about for a long time, but I’ve kept putting it off because it is quite emotional.

I wanted to share with you how important it is to identify a role model/mentor. Therefore I’ve decided to write a series of posts that will cover this subject. I will write about people I was very fortunate to meet, but also about people whose books, presentations or articles helped me a lot.

During my education and my short career I have identified several professionals that helped me build my path and that were a great example. But there is one in particular that has brought the greatest contribution: my husband, Silviu. He is not only a life partner, he is also a model for my dream career. I am constantly amazed and inspired by his professionalism, his unrelenting passion for technology, his dedication, calm, integrity, and communication skills. I admire him for the team he created, and for the way his colleagues look to him. I am pretty sure there are people that see in him a model as well.

I know I have a long way to go till I’ll achieve all these, but I am really grateful I have a full-time role model.

I postponed this first post from the series to be able to publish it in a special day: Happy Birthday to you, my full time role model!

What a better day than the Programmers’ Day to start a blog

Is there a better day than the Programmers’ Day for my first blog post? Writing about technology is something I’ve wanted to do for quite some time. It seems like there’s never enough time in the day. It also took forever to get my husband to set up WordPress for me. But today is the day! I feel happy I started this new adventure.

I hope this blog will be a place you will enjoy visiting frequently, and that you will like reading all my posts about technology and many other interesting subjects.
Shortly I will fill in the About Me section, but until then please feel free to check my Linkedin profile.
Happy reading!